No one ever taught us the rules about how to relate to women on a romantic level.
We have to struggle through the process of trial and error to figure out where to meet new people in the gay community, or what to say to start up a conversation with someone we like.
You can go on dates with as many people as you like! Some women may prefer to get to know each other as friends first, and then allow a romantic relationship to develop.
I guarantee that the extra attention will boost your self-confidence, and prevent you from getting hung up on one specific person. Other couples may choose to have sex early on, after the first or second date.
However, most lesbian love affairs follow a pattern where two women meet, go out for 3 or 4 dates in person and then if the chemistry is right, they initiate physical intimacy. But always remember that , and I'm here to support you in taking the first steps toward your first date, first kiss and beyond.
Before I met and married my husband, I was with my ex for 15 years, but only married for 6 months.
Long Answer: It's very important to tailor your message to the person that you're corresponding with because, as a rule, simple messages like "Hey" or "What's up? I think it's cool that you're [an engineer / an artist / interested in technology]. To make sure that your emotional needs are being met, the best choice would be to diversify your options until you find someone who is a keeper.
In practical terms, this strategy means that you will probably need to take an active role in your dating search: I recommend reaching out to 3-5 new people per week online. ) Long answer: The question of when lesbians first have sex is a complicated one which, of course, is dependent on the wants and needs of both partners.
And you should know up front that it's not your fault!
My wife and I had marched with thousands of others for marriage equality. My novels featured queer characters, and my poems honored the love between women.